Friday, March 30, 2007

Memory Lane

I got a couple of comments from a few of you who remembered the ladybug picnic from Sesame Street. Anyway, while I was looking for the video I came across a few more from my "youth". I always loved this one. Enjoy and have a great weekend. Next week we will see Colleen and Jim's baby girl!!!!

Thursday, March 29, 2007

One Year Ago Today

On March 29, 2006 the CCAA said "Hello Chris,Maryellen, Ben and Hannah we have your file, please go take a seat and we will be with you soon."

Wednesday, March 28, 2007

North Carolinians Take Their Sports Rivalries Seriously!

This is a video posted by Rhett McLaughlin (NC State Wolfpack fan) and his wife Jessie ( UNC Chapel Hill Tarheel fan). Sports Illustrated reported that the couple has a informal "prenup", their sons would be Wolfpack fans and their daughters Tarheel fans like their mom. When you move here people will ask you about your "team"......and ya need to pick one ( and they would prefer that it not be Duke). Hannah and I like the Tarheels (it is a pretty shade of blue) and Ben and Chris refuse to pick. They are Florida Gator fans.

Monday, March 26, 2007

I'm Finished With This.....

Our agency called today with their lastest group of special needs referrals. Our Sophie was not on this list. This is it for me for awhile. I am tired. I put away as much of Sophie's things as I could this afternoon. I will need to ask Hannah if she wants to take down the crib. The best case scenario is that we will be matched with Sophie in December or January, worst case next March. I have not lost hope, I know that eventually our little girl will come home to us. I just can't have baby things around my house for another year.

Sunday, March 25, 2007

Another Birthday Down!

I had a great birthday week. Birthdays seem to last quite a while in the TBG house. My birthday extravaganza started on Monday. Chris hired someone to come spring clean our house! Love this gift. I usually do the spring-cleaning thing during our Easter break, now I won’t have to! I went to work on Friday and the kids all sang happy birthday to me during my last day of morning duty. (I loathe morning duty, but the kids made my last day fun!). After work on Friday I headed over to the spa for a massage. So fab-u-lous. Every time I leave there I say to myself that I need to treat myself to a massage more once a month! Not only was my massage unbelievable, the massage therapist is interested in teaching a class on infant massage. I have wanted to learn infant massage to help facilitate the bonding process with Sophie (when she finally comes home). I have posted on our FCC yahoo board and on another NC adoption board. I hope to be able to get a small group together for a class. Chris and the kids bought me some very cute items from J.Crew (my favorite). We didn’t go out to eat on Friday, because it is Lent and I didn’t feel like going out for seafood. Instead we went on sister’s birthday. My sister and I are a year and a day apart! We went to PF Changs and had some great food and fun! The weather here all weekend was perfect. Sunday we all hung out together and went to the near by college. Chris and Ben worked on his lacrosse and Hannah and I worked on her soccer skills. It was a great birthday

Tuesday, March 20, 2007

Another Birthday....

Ahh now that I am really into my 40’s I thought I would share what I have learned so far! ( kind of like what Tracy did….but with a few years added on for good measure!)

10. Turning 39 was waaay worse than turning 40.
9. 41 isn’t such a big deal either!
8. Remember to think and look young….just not MTV young.
7. Spending the money on good skin care products is worth every penny.
6. You are worth a professional massage, manicure, pedicure or whatever it is that makes you happy.
5. Marry someone who can make you laugh.
4. There is always something new to learn, even if you’re an old pro at something.
3. Lowering your calorie intake and increasing the amount you exercise is really the only way to lose weight and keep it off.
2. The laundry will still be there when you wake up from a nap!
1. Vanity sizing is BS….but I like it any way!

Sunday, March 18, 2007

Happy St. Patrick’s Day

Hope everyone had a nice St. Pat’s weekend. Chris and I went with some friends to a St. Patrick’s dinner and dance held by the Knights of Columbus. The majority of people there were the older members of our parish, there were a few tables of people "our age". The older folks stay for dinner and then mosey out around 8:00. Anyway, for $20 per person you get a traditional Irish boiled dinner and all the beer you can drink........we were definitely there for the beer. Our friends live close to the church so we walked to the festivities. I knew I had to drive us home so my intake of beverages was limited…but Chris on the other hand was feeling a strong need to celebrate his Irish heritage. Lets just say that at one point he thought that dancing might help him sober up a bit. I was laughing so hard I had tears rolling down my face. Now I know where Ben got his smooth dance moves! Not to scare anyone, but to just give you all a visual of the dance floor, at one point there were twenty middle class white people on the dance floor dancing to “Bootybootybooties rockin everywhere." It was a little scary, but also pretty freakin funny! There were quite a few very hung over people at 11:00 Mass today.

Saturday, March 17, 2007

Can You Feel the Love????

What a great two days for little Ms. Sophie! Friday brought super cute gifts from Colleen and today two more packages!!! The two boxes where outside the door when I pulled into the driveway with the kids.....who all said "what did you win on Ebay!" Smart A$$es!

The first package contained this lucky little pig from Ohio. I love the card and this pig is sooo soft and cuddly! Many thanks to the Mystery Pig Sender.

The second package contained this wonderful photo hanger for Sophie's room. Fabulous packing by the way Tracy! This will be the first piece of asian inspired art in her room. I can't wait to slide her referral picture on to it! Thank you so much Tracy for thinking of us!

Thanks for sending me a little extra love this week.....I needed it!

Friday, March 16, 2007

Now That 's the Truth!

Check out this cute t-shirt Sophie got in the mail today.
Thanks Colleen. I can’t wait to see Sophie toddling around wearing this next fall. How cute will this little tee look with some cute jeans and boots! I am sure that we will have another fashionista on our hands! And if that wasn’t enough Sophie also received a nice little bib with her name on it! I loooove getting presents in the mail.

Tuesday, March 13, 2007

Daylight Savings Time

Is it just us, or is daylight savings time kicking everyone in the pants this week! Gaaaw I am tired. I am up late and I have morning duty at school for the next two weeks so there is no hitting the snooze button for me! I have needed to bump up my diet coke intake just to make it through the day! Chris is of to the Dominican Republic…without me! He is going to look at some factories blah blah and that is why I have not been invited! I thought that sleeping with the boss would get me more than free jersey’s J

For my frozen northern family and friends….spring has sprung down in sunny NC! We have had a few days in the upper 70’s and are looking at a sunny Wednesday in the low 80’s. Flowers and trees are blooming all over the place. I love spring in NC….it comes so much sooner than it does in Massachusetts.

Still no word from Living Hope. We are still waiting for them to get the next group of waiting children referrals.

Sunday, March 11, 2007

Kristine posted a link to this so I thought I would post this for y'all to see. This a poem written by John Aeby in 1996 and put to video speaking with the voice of an adoptee. This was developed and produced by Holt International.

Friday, March 09, 2007

Now That It is Quiet......

It always so quiet after referrals come out. I have gotten a little better; usually I am cranky after referrals. This time I was sad, sad for Colleen and Jim (but they are next:) Sad that so many of us logged in the first couple of months of 2006 seemed to have hit the "peak" wait months. Just sad....we are missing Hannah and Ben's little sister. Everything seems to be waiting on her arrival. I know people say you can't put your life on hold or wish your days away, but it is hard! So we try not to make plans based on when Sophie comes home, and we try really really hard not to wish days away. We are all trying to “hang in there.” Have a good weekend friends. Go enjoy life; we are all blessed in so many ways.

Wednesday, March 07, 2007

Just Too Good To Keep To Myself!

LH has still not received their WC referrals. They did not come with the recent group of NSN referrals......we thought that they might. So we continue to wait. We are out of the review room :)

As I was heating up my lavender scented neck wrap I received this email from my Mom. It seemed waaay to appropriate for the week.

Calmness in our lives

I am passing this on to you because it definitely works, and we could all use a little more calmness in our lives. By following simple advice heard on the Dr. Phil show, you too can find inner peace. Dr Phil proclaimed, "The way to achieve inner peace is to finish all the things you have started and have never finished."

So, I looked around my house to see all the things I started and hadn't finished, and before leaving the house this morning, I finished off a bottle of Merlot, a bottle of White Zinfandel, a bottle of Bailey's Irish Cream, a bottle of Kahula, a package of
Oreos, the remainder of my old Prozac prescription, the rest of the cheesecake, some Doritos and a box of chocolates.

You have no idea how freaking good I feel. Please pass this on to those whom you think might be in need of inner peace.

Tuesday, March 06, 2007

Need Some Blogger Help!

Help! I can't seem to post anything from you tube on my blog??? What I have posted seems to have disappeared too! What's up with that? If you can help straighten me out I would really appreciate it :)

I wish you all could help out with this seems that the stress of waiting to hear about Living Hope's WC list has resulted in an eating fest and the inability to move my head. Add to that job stress, general life stress and I really should be in a spa some where, or at the very least a bar!

Sunday, March 04, 2007

Fingerprints ......Again!!

Well we had our fingerprints done again. We headed out to Charlotte Saturday morning and of course hit some traffic. Luckily Chris is a ‘map guy’ and he was able to go through some small towns to get us around the traffic mess. If I had been by myself it is entirely possible that I would still be sitting in traffic! Our appointment was at 1:30 we did not leave ACS until 3:30! We stopped at the Concord Mills Outlets. It was a beautiful day and the place was packed! I used to be quite the mall shopper, but to be honest I rather just order something online. I hate being corralled inside the mall; I like the outlet malls that you can just drive up to the store you want to shop. I did pick up a few small things, but to honest I couldn’t get out of there fast enough! Ben and Hannah spent the day with their grandparents. Chris and I stopped on our way home and had a very nice dinner at a Thai restaurant. It was relaxing….and delicious. We even were able to see the lunar eclipse. It was a nice ending to a ridiculous requirement for our adoption, given that our fingerprints have not changed!

We are hoping to hear from our agency this week. They should be getting the next group of special needs children this month. When I tortured…I mean talked to the SN coordinator she felt that they should receive a group the first week of March. So needless to say I will be on high freaking alert! I am really hoping and praying that Sophie is with this next group of children. I am thinking that she just wants to be a teachers’ baby and come towards the end of the school year so we can all hang out together all summer!

Saturday, March 03, 2007

What Do You Mean I'm Not White???

Connie and Kristine have both posted some interesting things on being a transracial family. This is an interesting topic to me for many different reasons. First let me share a story with you.

My mother was born in Indonesia and is of Indonesian/Dutch descent on her mothers’ side and Indonesian and Turkish decent on her father’s side. Here is a picture of my mother.

My mother is listed as white on my birth certificate. She is not white. She is biracial maybe? Or Asian. How in the world those nuns at the hospital got away with listing my little brown skinned mother with almond eyes as white I will never know!! But for whatever reason I never considered my mother not white, or myself for that matter! I am not kidding. When I was growing up, not white meant that you were either black/African American or Hispanic. In the part of the northeast where I grew up there were cities and towns predominately populated by one ethnic group. Chicopee was mostly people of Polish decent, the south end was Italian, Hungry Hill was Irish, Ludlow was Portuguese, the North End Puerto Rican. It wasn’t until I was twenty-five years old when someone said to me directly that I wasn’t white! An African American coworker and I were talking about our families and I mentioned my mothers ethnic background to which she replied “Your not white!” I have to be honest and say this was a shock to me. I told her that yes I was white. My Dad is a tall really white Irish guy, and my Mom is Asian. She looked at me like I had lost my mind. I just kind of stood there not knowing what to say. I never considered being Asian as not being white?!?!

As a family we celebrated all the usual American holidays, We went to my Oma’s (Grandmothers) but instead of turkey or ham we had Indonesian food. On July 4th we had chicken and beef sate, rice and curry veggies. I always loved this food, and as a child I liked that my family was different. I thought my mother’s background was exotic and interesting.

We have always teased my mother about her wanting to be WASPY (tall, blonde, blue eyes). I don’t ever recall wishing my mother looked like my friends moms. Maybe in her effort to assimilate to American culture our cultural identity was watered down?? I don’t speak Dutch or Indonesian, I was raised Catholic, most people look at me and are not quite sure of my ethnic background. A few years ago I started making Indonesian food more frequently because I freaked out when I realized my kids did not love the food of my “nurture”. Indonesian food is a lot of work!! I usually only make it on weekends because it is so labor intensive! The kids don’t like everything I make, but they like most of it. For the record, and not to deny my father’s Irish heritage and we celebrate that too!

So how does my experience impact my thoughts on being a transracial family? Well I can say I am Asian too, but I am not Chinese. If I were suddenly to find myself living in Indonesia I am sure I would feel like a fish out of water. Much like our daughters may feel one day when and if they return to China. The little box I check on a form indicating my racial background is one part of who I am but it certainly doesn’t completely define who I am. I hope that I can teach Sophie that being Chinese is a part of who she is, but there will be so many more things that will help define who she is become….


Friday, March 02, 2007

Going Anywhere Good This Weekend???

It bugs Chris just a little bit that I have a higher percentage than he does! LOL